Chivalry is soooo dead!!

I'm a strong capable woman. I'm very self sufficient and independent. I can take care of myself in most situations. However, there comes a time when if I'm struggling with something and there is a male around who can lend a helping hand, I expect his help. Is that so much to ask? I mean really.

I was dropping off a car at the rental car place and I had all this shit in my hands, my laptop bag, gym bag and purse. After I finished settling the bill I needed a ride to the dealership to pick up my car. Remember, I'm struggling with my three bags. Does the Rental Car guy open the car door for me so I can put the bags in the back, or maybe pop the trunk? NO! When we get to the dealership, does he offer to help get the bags out the car? NO!! Does he even gesture in any way to help me with my bags? HELL NO!!! I got out of the car and before I could open the back door, he's putting the car in reverse. WTF???!!!!

I know there is women's lib and women have made great strides in social equality, but DAMN!! Sometimes it's not about gender equality, but more about human decency. I would have offered to help him if the roles were reversed.

Regardless, I don't care how much gender equality there is, sometimes a lady should be treated like a lady. Dumb Fucker. ;)

I don't wanna be a playa no more...

I went to a party where I was reminded of one of the most awkward situations I had back in college. It was late Friday night after debate practice, an old friend, Jeff, from out of town comes by to see the team and to pick me up for drinks. My new friend, Ben, was there as well. He was also on the team and knew Jeff. Before I go any further, I should tell you that Jeff and I have a bit of an unspoken history. We're cool to this day, but he's like that one guy/girl you can't seem to forget no matter how hard you try.

Ben was one of those guys who I had around to help me forget Jeff. I don't know if he subconsciously knew it, but every time I mentioned Jeff, he bugged out. I got a healthy dose of that drama several months later. Remind me to tell you about the temper tantrum he threw, it was crazy.

We invited Ben to come along to the local restaurant/bar we were going to, but he refused. Jeff and I go to the bar and meet up with some of our mutual friends. Who happens to be there, but another guy I thought would help me get over my infatuation with Jeff. WTF? It was raining men, but not in a good way. And of course Jeff picks up on mood and says, "old boyfriend?" and laughs. Ass. I don't know about you, but I have anxiety of people who have known intimate knowledge of me being in the same room together. I'd rather they didn't have an opportunity to swap stories. I'm just saying.

I was reminded of this episode because of a party I went to several weeks ago. I'm at NB's(the new boy) house party. I happened to arrive early so, no one was really there and I was hanging out with him in his bedroom. After a while, people start coming in the house, so we leave the room. Who is the first person I see as I leave NB's room? None other than NB's neighbor, who I hooked up with 8 months before at another of NB's house parties. Again, awkward. Although I've been over to NB's house several times, I hadn't seen the neighbor since that last party so I kind of put him out of my mind. When he sees me, he says, "I know you!" I was thinking, great, just don't say anything about what happened. Not that I have something to be ashamed of, I'd just rather my business kept private. Plus, I wasn't dating NB when it happened. The neighbor is no longer a neighbor. Really, does NB really need to know?