Hi. Your friend "Platonic Girl Buddy" here. How are you? Good, me too. So I was wondering, do you ever stop to think about how you talk about other girls in front of me? No? Didn't think so. Now, of course I don't care if you drool over that busty blonde at the end of the bar, or if you do a double take at that gorgeous brunette sweeping by us on the sidewalk. Nor do I mind when you go on (and on...and on) about Carmen Electra's rack, or Kim Kardass...ashian's, well, ass. Yes, they're nice. I don't mind these conversations, so long as I can chime in about Daniel Craig's broad shoulders and abs of steel (I'm salivating as we speak).
But it's when you start picking girls apart that I feel the need to object. "Did you see Janet? That girl's sure packed on the pounds" or "Dude, what is up with Tina's ass, why is it so HUGE" or any comment equating a girl's boob size to an unflattering object (ironing board, for example). You don't think this makes us a bit uneasy, considering most of us aren't exactly Cindy Crawford?
I'm all for ogling beautiful people -- let's just keep it in the realm of who's hot, as opposed to who's not. Oh and for the record? Telling a girl she has (and I quote) "child-bearing hips" will get you nowhere. Absolutely nowhere.
Old-Fashioned Values vs Modern Progression
I was driving to work the other day listening to the latest Jill Scott album. I don't know why, but I started thinking about a conversation dj and I had about pick-up lines women could give men. Though we were talking about cheesy, silly lines, I started thinking of how women nowadays let a man know she's interested, yet still not fall completely into the antiquated role of women waiting around for a guy to get up the nerve to approach her or not fully embrace the role of , "I Am Woman. Hear Me Roar!" and club him over the head and drag him back to her lair. As always, I've bitten off more than I can chew....
Though I consider myself a modern woman, I appreciate some of the old-fashioned rules that come with male-female relations. Walk on the curb side of the sidewalk, open doors for me, and the best one, ask me out first. There is something I find attractive about a guy who knows what he wants and goes after it. I'm not talking stalker, but a guy with a goal (me) is hot. A guy friend of mine says it's because I like the chase. Maybe. I doubt it. However, if I were to take that position, what is wrong with that? I'll drop you the appropriate hints, but you have to seal the deal. I'm not into the game of making a guy jump through ridiculous hoops in order to get me to go out with them, but I like to know that he's willing to put in the effort for me. Does that make sense?
Then there are the women who are aggressive go getters. When it comes to approaching men, I'm not her. Also, I've heard from a lot of guys they don't consider her girlfriend material. Booty calls, are a different story. My guy friend says that he would like a girl to ask him out every once in awhile. Something about taking the pressure off him in having to be the one to make an effort. I say WTF? There are more women than there are men in this country. The pressure is on the woman. Therefore, he should make more of an effort. Even if girls drop hints to guys, they don't get it. I know, no one likes to be rejected, yet the chips seem to be stacked against the girls.
After all that, I'm confused and frustrated. Now what?
Though I consider myself a modern woman, I appreciate some of the old-fashioned rules that come with male-female relations. Walk on the curb side of the sidewalk, open doors for me, and the best one, ask me out first. There is something I find attractive about a guy who knows what he wants and goes after it. I'm not talking stalker, but a guy with a goal (me) is hot. A guy friend of mine says it's because I like the chase. Maybe. I doubt it. However, if I were to take that position, what is wrong with that? I'll drop you the appropriate hints, but you have to seal the deal. I'm not into the game of making a guy jump through ridiculous hoops in order to get me to go out with them, but I like to know that he's willing to put in the effort for me. Does that make sense?
Then there are the women who are aggressive go getters. When it comes to approaching men, I'm not her. Also, I've heard from a lot of guys they don't consider her girlfriend material. Booty calls, are a different story. My guy friend says that he would like a girl to ask him out every once in awhile. Something about taking the pressure off him in having to be the one to make an effort. I say WTF? There are more women than there are men in this country. The pressure is on the woman. Therefore, he should make more of an effort. Even if girls drop hints to guys, they don't get it. I know, no one likes to be rejected, yet the chips seem to be stacked against the girls.
After all that, I'm confused and frustrated. Now what?
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