We’ve all seen her. That girl in the club/bar/grocery store/wherever walking around with her ass cheeks hanging out of what I’m guessing is supposed to be a skirt. She’s the girl who I can't help being totally annoyed by...but even still I hate hating this chick because no matter what logical reason I have for thinking she’s absolutely ridiculous, if I make any sort of comment about the lack of clothes and exposed body parts, I’m immediately lumped into the category of being a “hater” or “jealous" - which of course, is entirely not the case. It's not a case of being a hater at all, but hating what she's portraying and what message she's putting out there for all to see.
While I’m definitely pro-fashion-choices and people being who they are without apology, I really get irked by women who choose to dress like total hoochies. I personally feel there is a fine line between being ultra-sexy and just plain tacky. When I think of sexy women I think Halle Berry, Angelina Jolie, Jessica Alba – do these women let it all hang out in a pair of spandex leopard print pants and cleavage up to their necks? Definitely not.
I think women who dress like superskanks make it harder on the rest of us. These women are so obviously serving themselves up on this “please, objectify me” platter that leaves Dickhead Joe Schmo thinking we’re all like that and that we actually welcome (or enjoy?!) being attacked in a driveby ass grab or “accidental” boob graze. It’s happened to the best of us and it’s really just plain nasty.
What also bothers me is that guys actually pay attention to these girls. While I admit that I can’t help but look (often in horror), I’m guessing my male friends aren’t looking in disgust, but probably more in LUST. So my question for the boys is – what is the intrigue? I mean, I know (most) of you would never actually consider taking a girl like this home to mom (I’m being real glass-half-full here), but what makes you go ga-ga over these skank-a-nators? It leaves the nice - and often more fully dressed girls - ignored and wondering what the fuck is going on.
So shed some light!
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8 comments:
have you ever seen the vagina monologues? there's one called 'my short skirt' that's about how women should be able to wear whatever they want without being judged by men [or other women].
it's not about looking sexy, it's about wearing something that you are comfortable in and like how you look in. beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so while you [and, yes, most people] wouldn't be caught dead in a cheetah-print mini dress, that could just be someone else's natural aesthetic bend.
If the guys were going after her, then they're not the right type of guys for you anyway, so consider it a filter of some sort?
i totally agree with women not being judged based on what they wear by men or other women - trust me on that! i guess i'm talking about a very specific type of girl - one that is dressing that way not just cause she likes it and it's her style, but one that dresses that way soley for the attention. it makes me more sad than anything that that's the only way they think they can get attention (male OR female i'm guessing), when instead i'm sure there are other fabulous things about them they should be serving up on that platter (instead of ass-cheeks).
it's really my being bummed and upset for these women that they are choosing to lump themselves in this "skank" category (whether knowingly or not) - which i think is a step backward for women in general - not a progressive step forward. i think they are actually doing themselves an injustice.
women are sexual and we should definitely feel free to fly that flag whenever we damn well please. but i guess my problem is when ONLY that flag is flying...i find it hard to believe that these women are empowering themselves - it just feeds into the complete objectifcation that women need to start to steer away from.
ok, i agree with deanna's comment. she said what i was trying to say way better than i did.
i do feel bad for the girls who feel like the only way they can attract male attention is by dressing provocatively and acting a certain way [i used to live with one].
then again, males are stereotypically more attracted to T&A than GPA; it sadly makes sense that some women think that showing off their bodies is the best way to get male attention. the thing about this, as trixie brought up, is that the wrong type of guys like us for our bods rather than brains.
we need to get some guys on here to tell us what the appeal is other than the obvious. unless it is just the obvious.
That is so my roommate! She is a personal trainer and works out all of the time so she has great legs and a great ass. The problem is she flips the F out if any guy slaps her ass or anything. She is abolutely looking for and wanting the attention too!
I don't hate on her but I DO think it looks ridiculous when her pockets are coming out from the bottom of her skirt!
yay jerseyjov!! and your comment "guys are more attracted to T&A rather than GPA" is classic.
and you're so right about THOSE guys. definitely not ones i'd be interested in either. we do need the male voice to chime in here - they are rather quiet on this one for some reason. maybe cause it really is just The Obvious. :)
i agree with all of you. i'm easy today. hee hee
when it comes to dressing, my mother would always ask me, "what kind of message are you trying to send out?"
definitely not skank. guys are visual and if you are in a bar or a club, they aren't thinking about leaving with a girl who knows rousseau's social contract or that 1+1=3(it does in binary). they are thinking about how easy it would be to get her out of that little dress, skirt, top she's wearing. we don't want those guys anyway.
too bad we can't go to a place were we can objectify hetero guys. that may be fun.
Hmm...Nik's comment just reminded me of an episode of SATC where one of the characters goes to a gay club where the bartenders are straight!
But seeing that it is hard to think of a place to objectify straight men, it's a testament to the one sided objectification of people in our culture - only women get objectified, not men.
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